The next WOmen Who See In The Dark Retreat will take place on the beautiful island of Ibiza, Spain October 15-21st, 2018. These unique retreats designed to support powerful women already on their path of manifestation of their unique purpose, to rest, recharge and replenish and pierce through places within where they may be controlling or hiding behind false identifications of power and drive. The entrepreneur program for women, Double You, interviewed Komala Lyra and myself ot find out more about these retreats. You can read the article HERE or below:
The ExperienceWe dropped in with Komala Lyra and Araminta Barbour to find out more…
What is it all about?
Ultimately, this is an invitation to deeply stop, pause, reset and re-source. So many workshops fuel our striving to become more, to heal more, to perfect ourselves and go go go; ultimately feeding the part of us that says we aren’t enough as we are. What if by staring into the darkness, by stripping away all the striving, the foundational mystery of your being would replenish you more deeply than any dietary changes, workout modifications, healing sessions, or new tools and techniques? We created this event particularly with successful, dynamic women in mind – those who are already immersed in manifesting their visions and want to go deeper. We fuse our backgrounds in tantra, sacred sexuality, meditation, dance and various wisdom traditions into the retreat we always wanted to take!
Many entrepreneurs are familiar with their masculine aspects – they are busy initiating, seeding their visions, holding space for their teams, engaging in constant power dynamics – and can feel drained and unappreciated. This journey pays attention to our inner masculine – helping us to mature our inner guy and give him the sexual, emotional and empowerment initiations that will guide and honour his aspects from Boy, through Knight, King and Sage so that his expression is mature, powerful and healthy. What it looks like experientially is an incredibly beautiful, engaging, creative and playful journey focused on genuine integration within a circle of sisterhood where every part of ourselves is welcome.
– Araminta Barbour
Consumer culture bombards our senses, especially our vision. The beauty of starting and ending each day of this delicious women’s retreat with darkness meditation, eyes open – helps reset the neurology and chemistry of the body bit by bit.
By bathing our eyes in the darkness, we are able to reset our system. Melatonin production changes and our natural receptivity returns. The reactive pattern to grab and cling to external forms recedes as our inner vision reasserts itself.
Women’s vitality and creativity requires pause from overwhelming to-do lists. Every aspect of this retreat is designed to support enquiry of what lies at our core so a deeper essence reveals itself behind every impulse.
We are not here to reframe anything in any particular way – but to uncover what is natural and spontaneous. We are not going to offer any models at any level – just various creative tools through art, dance and meditations for exploration. For you to find out, wow! There is no possibility of comparison with anything – with anybody. Can you allow yourself to be both subject and object of enquiry? This journey is only about you noticing and finding out about you – how you express your soul.
– Komala Lyra
Why Masculine Initiations?
Most of our stories of who we are, have been framed by a culture that taught us to look through a narrow frame of gender-based identification. Even most women’s workshops today subtly and not-so-subtly focus on helping you become more ‘feminine’, activating more “shakti power”, or teach you how to “embody your goddess nature” etc. The deeper call, however, is to become more integrated. When all sides of our soul become seen and accepted, our life’s service is revealed and we stop copying social conditioning and find our unique expression. The creative surge is immense!
Peace between the sheets and the genders won’t come about by controlling and manipulating the other to fit into our ideals. However when we meet these aspects within, new pathways open up. Addressing the undercurrent of disdain many women have been taught to feel towards male sexuality reconciles once it’s owned with. When women gift themselves the chance to recognise their inner masculine energy signatures and mature them, HUGE keys of power and self-awareness and self-compassion are found. We also can step out of suppressing and judging our brothers and stop the cycle of blame, shame, control and recrimination.
– Araminta Barbour
Tell us more about your use of POWER
Each day we pose a question for reflection and inquiry, alternating between silence and creativity to reveal our story and the energetic imprints behind it so we can see how we may be holding ourselves back. One example is The Rescuer archetype and exploring the righteousness I may hold to be rescued – whether by daddy, the boss, the lover, the president etc,…
This identification is usually very subtle and undermining – The point is it takes your power away. If you think it depends on the president how you are going to eat your breakfast tomorrow or that you can or can’t do this or that the story has control. When you look at the lie – it takes you to another lie – which leads to your real fears and ultimately a lack of self-responsibility. Once we are courageous enough to see – to look directly at the story and let the underlying emotional knot of energy vibrate free – there is a doorway to reclaiming our sovereignty. Simple – not always easy. Which is why a supportive tribe willing to stand in the fire of truth – helps each of us walk our individual journeys and sitting in circle is so powerful.
– Komala Lyra
How do you work with SHADOW?
Each day we look at an archetype and explore its shadow. Our culture is so afraid of death/ the darkness/ the pause. It doesn’t value its place or honours its links to the cycle of rebirth. So we tend to focus on increase and accumulation at all costs. Anything that is linked to decrease usually triggers deep-seeded fear and so, for example the Rescuer archetype often steps in to prolong INCREASE and to avoid any decrease. Refining and owning our relationship to these archetypes brings much freedom and resurgence of life force.
– Araminta Barbour
What is special about each location your choose?
Our event in Israel in September 2017 explored the specific themes of integrity, empowerment and ecstasy, surrender and control, power and resistance over 5 days in the stunning venue of the unique oasis, MOA. Each retreat focuses on unpacking certain dynamics that can rob us of our inherent fullness. This breathtaking retreat space is surrounded by a vast untouched desert gifting each of us the spaciousness for reflection mirrored by the external natural environment and informed by the collective energies apparent in Israel at this time around sovereignty.
Why focus on our inner masculine if this is a women’s retreat?
We have blamed men for so many things for long enough. It is time to take responsibility for change and harness our creative capacities to make great shifts. We have allowed toxic programming about men to dampen our vision and perpetuate conflict. What if our part as women is not only to love ourselves but to reorient ourselves to love & respect men rather than hate & emasculate them. The Women Who See in the Dark Retreats is a unique offering for women designed to shift ourselves and our relationship to men by undertaking initiations for our own inner masculine. This path brings immense insights, deep integration and a flowering of authenticity and intimacy with our brothers.
– Araminta Barbour
What Does the Day Look Like?
Our time together is designed in layers, weaving…
Movement & Stillness ~ Awakening subtle body channels
Daily Tandava ~Kashmeerian Tantra Meditation
Electricity & Magnetism ~ Recognizing dark masculine-feminine archetypes, wisdom & resources
Including bringing light to the roots of jealousy and comparison ~ clearing judgments and resentments ~ identifying spiritual bypass ~emotions as life resources ~ recovering trust, bliss and freedom
Emptiness & Fullness ~ Nourishing the body with delicious Ayurveda based gourmet menu
Inquiry & Revelations ~ Discovering alone-together, what is ready to unfold.
Themes for exploration include Integrity; Empowerment and Ecstasy; Surrender and Control; Power and Resistance.
Vertical & Horizontal ~ Enjoying tastes, scents, touch, sounds, colors, opening the senses…
Expression & Introspection ~ Sharing with transparent honesty while listening in spaciousness
Including Danza Ritual, Tantric touch, Innocent Wisdom
Into the Night
Vision & Expansion ~ Activating the third-eye with Tratak & Darkness Meditation
FIND OUT MORE: www.womenwhoseeinthedark.com